Raise your male child to first see himself as a male. He is first a male before he is a son, brother, nephew, boyfriend, husband and dad.
He is responsible for no one else but himself first, because he owes no one except himself. His purpose is beyond trying to impress or provide or protect.
He should not be encumbered by the responsibility and demands of others or the expectations of the society on his gender.
Teach him that he owes no one an apology because he is a male. He owes no one an apology for his existence.
Teach him that there is no such thing as gentleman or real man. It is just some societal BULLSHIT to manipulate and guilt-trip him to conform to some expected standard.
Teach him that he is expected to aspire to be anything he wants to be and not be guilt-tripped he is the reason some gender feel they could not.
Teach him that because he is blessed to have a penis doesn’t make life automatically drop at his feet. There are no benefits kept away somewhere for a male gender. Even the experience of an ERECTION is not easy. Life is not fair to all.
Teach him to respect his body as well. Not every babe deserves his body and not every babe is worth penetrating.
Teach him that while he learns to do his own chores or cook, it is not slavery nor for the purpose of domestication but for his survival.
Teach him also that because he is a man doesn’t mean he should be the one doing the physical or so called manly duties around the house neither is he expected to run the difficult and dangerous errands.
Teach him that to be selfish is not a crime. He would be termed broke, stingy, dead beat because he chooses to care for himself first, and so it doesn’t matter whatever anyone thinks.
Teach him that his worth must not be reduced to his pocket and his ability to provide. If he is going to be a good husband and father, it’s not because of his pocket or the size of his bank account.
Teach him that no gender is doing him a favour accepting him the way he is. If he cannot be accepted and loved as he is too, irrespective of what he is worth financially, he should take a walk and not feel guilty.
Teach him that he doesn’t have to bottle up his feelings. He shouldn’t always pick up his shirt and take a walk, he shouldn’t always be the mature and responsible one because he is male. He should speak up, speak out and speak back and fight back. If he is hit, irrespective of which gender, he should hit back and defend himself.
Teach him it is OK to be aggressive. The aggressive they term toxic is an innate behaviour of a man and can be used for good too.
Above all, he should respect all irrespective of gender but only because they deserve it and not because of gender.
If he cannot be accepted as he is, it’s not his fault. His purpose is beyond being responsible for others or being tied to the need or expectations of others.
The world awaits him. He should simply be a MAN and LIVE. There are great men who went on to change the world. He should never allow his gender be defined or colored by the ones who turned out negative. His gender is MORE.
If we must get rid of gender and societal stereotypes, then it must be across board.